Apr 212013
 

Last two blogs, I wrote about how one might better chose a partner for life, for marriage.  This is a continuation of that conversation.

There are 3 crucial questions I ask all couples coming to me for pre-marital counseling.

  1. If you had a crystal ball and could see 10 years into the future and you saw your relationship was no better or worse than it is right now, today, is it enough?
  2. (Speaking to the female I ask) “If you had a daughter, would you want her to marry someone just like the person you are about to marry?  (Speaking to the male I ask) “If you had a son, would you want him to marry someone just like the person you are about to marry?
  3. (Speaking to the female I ask) “If you had a son, would you want him to grow up to be just like the person you are about to marry?  (Speaking to the male I ask) “If you had a daughter, would you want her to grow up to be just like the person you are about to marry?

If you answered no to any of these questions, a little more work or thought may need to go into the relationship. Continue reading »